End of summer “greet-off” challenge
August 13th, 2010 by Nick
Most initiation ministers don’t think of the greeters for Sunday liturgy as being on the RCIA team. Perhaps we should. Let me tell you about my experience as an “inquirer” this summer. Because of my travel schedule, I was in a different parish almost every Sunday in July and August. No one said hello to me, with one exception.
The exception was a parish that had greeters at the door. I walked up to a greeter and greeted her! She returned my “hello.” Otherwise, the score was zero greetings.
Even “hospitable” parishes aren’t very
This is common in Catholic churches. I experience it a lot, and I complain about it a lot. A while back, a friend (who was probably tired of my rants) told me such a cold, non-welcome would never happen in her parish. Her parish, she told me, was known for its hospitality. So I went to her parish one Sunday, unannounced. No greeting. No hospitality.
Often when I meet with RCIA teams, they complain that their parish is losing Catholics—sometimes neophytes!—to evangelical churches. They sometimes suggest possible reasons for this. Evangelical churches perhaps have a simpler, black-and-white theology that may be attractive. Or they may have more dynamic preaching. Or their Sunday services may be more entertaining.
The reason evangelical churches grow
I’ve talked to a few ex-Catholics who joined some of these churches, and they give none of those reasons for switching. Their reasons? Child-care and over-the-top hospitality.
I talked with one woman who had gone through the RCIA and left her parish for a nearby nondenominational megachurch during her neophyte year. The Catholic parish she left was also a megachurch. The liturgies were wonderful, she said, and the preaching was usually better than she heard in the nondenominational church. But after she was initiated and no longer a part of her small RCIA group, she was lost in her huge Catholic parish. She had no friends there and no one talked to her at Mass.
At the nondenominational church, several people greeted her the first time she showed up. They remembered her name when she came back the next week. They invited her to church events. They invited her to a retreat. One person invited her to meet for coffee during the week. And she could bring her toddler to church and know there was a safe place for him to play during the service.
The challenge
I wish I knew what the solution was to this. There seems to be something baked into Catholic DNA that prevents us from being hospitable at Mass. What I do know is, we can’t change other people. We can’t turn our Catholic parishes into welcoming communities, no matter how hard we try. We can only become more welcoming ourselves.
So here is a challenge for all of us. For the next six Sundays, let’s commit to “finding the seeker.” You can set your own goal, but here is a suggestion. Over the next six Sundays, try to find at least three seekers at Mass. That’s one every other Sunday. A seeker is someone who is new to your parish and doesn’t know anyone in the community. Maybe they are active Catholics, or maybe they are not Christian at all. If they don’t know you or your parish, and you introduce yourself, they count as one of your three.
That leaves me with two questions. Do you want to accept the challenge? And, if so, how will you follow up with the seekers you meet?
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